Mom Group Failure

Day 3, Friday: Things that make you uncomfortable

Yesterday I planned to block off our morning/early afternoon for a trip to the local playground, a "picnic" lunch, and some ice cream. I would love to say I thought up this special little adventure all on my own, but in reality it was a mom's group "meet up". 

I tried the whole mom group thing when we first moved here. But Jack was too little to participate in most of the activities so it was a bust. This summer I thought it would be a great way to get us out and doing stuff when I am stumped/bored/longing for adult conversation. 

So, yesterday... the "event" started at 10. I figured we could show up between 10:30 and 11, you know, fashionably late and all. But I dragged my feet. Excuse my language, but that shit is awkward. I really didn't want to go. I knew I should go, but, well, staying in my sweats sounded better. 

I finally forced myself to get ready, pack a lunch for Jack and load into the car at 10 to noon. You should all be shocked that by the time I got there the playground was swamped (hello 80 degree weather in May in MICHIGAN). I couldn't tell who was the mom's group and who was "normal". 

I followed Jack around the playground awkwardly toting my purse and his lunch bag. I would spot a potential "mom friend" and immediately become the most awkward human you have ever met. At one point I was standing next to another mom and Jack slammed his head into a metal pole and fell flat on his back. The mom next to me said "Oh!" all concerned like and I started laughing. Yup, I laughed. Then said, "Might as well laugh and see if he decides it's worth crying about." He didn't think it was worth it and moved on, and so did the other mom. Whomp, whomp. 

Making friends really makes me uncomfortable. I don't know why. I think I'm fine if I already know somebody, but on my own I just can't make it click. I will keep trying. Perhaps I will go on time to the next group meeting... but until then, I'll just be awkward mom in the corner- heyyyyyyyy

Lets hope Jack has better social skills than his mother. 

P.S. I decided to do this challenge, but I am leaving for a LONG vacation TODAY! We are headed to Indy for my cousin's wedding then will be CARIBBEAN BOUND! We are spending Monday-Monday in St. John in the USVI with my whole family :) I may not be blogging every day, but I am going to try and get a few scheduled posts for the prompts :) Wish us luck travelling with a very busy toddler!!!


mrs. tabb said...

lol! at least making blog friends is waaaay easier. i'm the same way!!

gina said...

making friends makes me uncomfortable too! at least with a child you have a little ice breaker :).

Shelley said...

It's good to know that I'm not the only one who finds "making friends" AWKWARD!!!

FYI - I laugh too. when my kids fall or something... they react to your reaction ... at least that's my school of parenting.

Anonymous said...

Love your reaction! I am the same way when my son falls or bonks his head, he hardly ever cries when he gets hurt. That's a win-win in my book :D

Amanda said...

Oooh, I've been invited to so many mom things. It started when Pierce was born! How do the words "play date" & "newborn" fit in the same sentence?? Now, that he's 8mo, people still want me to bring him to play with 2 year old little Biff & Muffy at the indoor playground....where you PAY $10 for your kid to play. Pierce doesn't even crawl yet! His favorite toy is a laundry basket with balled up socks! WHY am I going to PAY for him to sit on the floor & look around? Don't even get me started on the whole germs issue...maybe as a NICU mom this germophobia will eventually end but let me have him home from the NICU a year? Lol

I'm totally with you & if you were close we could go be awkward together

Dara said...

once I went to a mom group thing and there was one other mom at this indoor playground place when I arrived. I went right up to her and introduced myself and then found out she wasn't with the group. argh. I made very few friends through the groups I tried since I moved here and eventually I quit.

Stacy said...

So this is basically how it goes any time I try to make friends since I moved away from all my friends 4 years ago. And my only shred of hope was that it would be easier to make friends again when I have kids LOL! I think I am doomed!