10.17.2012

Wedded Bliss Wednesdays

You know the drill! 
Grab the button and link up your posts.
Make sure you are a follower of both Allie & I's blogs, 
and be sure to try and visit a couple of other blogs that linked up! 
If you could give one piece of advice to any married (or soon-to-be married) couple, what would it be?
Communicate. Even if you know each other better than anyone else, you are not a psychic and neither is your spouse. If you expect, want, or need something- say it! Talk about it. It doesn't have to be a fight, but if you let it go and don't communicate with your spouse then it eventually will become one. 
What is an absolute MUST for any marriage/relationship?
Common values, goals, and morals. 
If you do not share the same basic ideals for your life together, you will constantly be moving in different directions and possibly even getting in one another's way. The best way to be on the same page and working towards the same things is to do what? Communicate! 
What is the #1 no-no in a marriage?
Giving up. Giving up on yourself, your spouse, your marriage. The minute you give up or stop caring, everything falls apart. Before John and I got engaged we talked a lot about what marriage means to us. We were both raised by people that didn't use divorce in their vocabulary. They also didn't sugar-coat things and teach us that it was easy. We knew that we were going to have to wake up and choose our marriage every single day. Some days it's hard. But we promised in front of God and everybody that we were in this forever. No giving up! 
What is the biggest lesson you have learned from your marriage?
That sometimes you need to let it go. That there is no winner/loser. When an argument boils down to who is right and who is wrong everyone is losing. I love my husband despite our bad days. I learned that love is more than just romance and butterflies in your stomach. For me, I never knew I could feel so incomplete when not with someone. Even when I am mad as hell at John, I still want to be by him. It can be a suffocating, overwhelming feeling at times. But 99% of the time, it's the most comforting thing in the world. 

Next Week's Questions:
We thought it would be fun to flip the script! 
We found out the first week that not everyone's husbands LOVE the whole blogging thing, but in whatever format (vlog, pen & paper, full on guest post) it's time to hear from the men!
Have your husband answer some questions about you/your marriage and report back on his answers!
What was the first thing you noticed about your wife?
When you first started dating your wife, what kept you calling/asking her out?
What is your wife's best quality?
What is your favorite thing to do with your wife (ahem, keep it clean!)?
What are you most excited for for the future with your wife?
How do you make your wife feel loved?

Thanks for linking up and I cannot wait to read all of your posts! :) 

11 comments:

Stacy said...

Ahhh I can't link up! ;)

Allie said...

Amen for the communication!! Love it!!

Stacy said...

Ok, I got it to work... crisis averted lol!

I love what you said about having to wake up and choose your marriage every single day. We feel the same way!

Jen said...

Sometimes you just need to let go is awesome advice. John and I don't use the D word either. He said it one time in our 5 years of marriage (not that he wanted one, long story) and we vowed never again.

Heather @ Cookies For Breakfast said...

AMEN, sistah! Couldn't have said it better myself! Though I still probably could use a little work on the communicating thing... ;-)

SEL said...

Such a cute linkup! Consider me your newest participant!

Newest follower, too!

xo
SEL
growinglaughingandlovinginlife.blogspot.com

Mis En Place said...

The part about being so mad but still wanting to stay by his side--couldn't have said it better myself! Such a conflicting feeling, but I think it's just a sign of how strong your relationship is.

Grace martin said...

amen to not having divorce in your vocabulary! of course it helps when you have the same morals and common values so you don't abuse the fact that the other person won't leave, but I think it goes a long way rather than "if it doesn't work, we can always divorce"

Megan Lindley said...

Amen! Communication! :)

Rachel said...

That your spouse is not a psychic--REALLY good thing to remember! I also believe common values are so, so important for marriage. And can I just say that I LOVE next week's questions!! I can't wait to read my husband's answers.

Danielle-Marie said...

I love it. I especially love the part about not giving up. So very, very true.